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Carolyn Wood's avatar

Thank you so much for writing this and so openly sharing it.

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Clarkie Doster's avatar

Just back here to say that I’ve been thinking of your words. I just listened to a podcast episode (about “mental health”) that I should decidedly not have listened to, and luckily I remembered this essay of yours and suddenly felt less disconnected. You don’t know me, and this message is incredibly cryptic, but I guess I just feel compelled to say thank you and keep writing?

Also, I LOLed when I first read this bc I read Anna Karenina in an inpatient clinic. V uplifting (hah) and all that made sense to read at the time. Again, I feel less alone.

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Stacey Loscalzo Reads's avatar

Thank you so much for sharing this Hunter. Ditto to all the kind things said above. While you may have some overwhelmed friends, know that you have a whole bunch of internet friends who are here loving you, your vulnerability and your humor. And know that if we met that lady at the copy machine, she would be in big trouble! Sending love your way! 🥰

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Emilie Sommer's avatar

Thinking of you, Hunter. Hang in there and thanks for the honesty.

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Catherine O’Neal's avatar

I really appreciate your writing and openness in sharing the emotional/biographical connections you experience in your reading life. I love your writing voice and always enjoy reading what you write. Books have been friends to me and helped me survive dark times in my life, too, often by echoing my own sense of despair. Your words and writing are helping others, too. I’m excited to see where your writing leads you! Sending you love and light as you find your way through this dark stretch. ❤️

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Elizabeth Aquino's avatar

I've been following you for a really long time and so value your take on books, on life -- and the bit of writing I've read of yours is just soaring! Depression sucks, and I am pulling for you -- sending love and strength and continued courage. Also, have you read Andrew Solomon?

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Michelle Holley's avatar

Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. What bothers me the most is what your friends told you about getting help if you want to keep them in your life. That’s really selfish and shows no empathy. Sharing how you feel does not mean that you want them to be your therapist.

I really hope you can feel better and find a new therapist. I am currently in the spiral of sadness and anxiety (for other reasons) and I can relate. I’m going to check out Girl, Interrupted and A Little Life.

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Jessica's avatar

I can relate to the self deprecation wrt our mental health. Hugs. Why do people hate A Little Life? Seriously amazing book.

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Cheryl Collins's avatar

Hunter, thank you for sharing this. You come across as a beautiful writer and a beautiful soul. I really hope you can find a way through this dark time. Since books are my survival gear I offer Something in the woods loves you by Jarod K Anderson in case you haven't come across it. It's a memoir of his own depression which I found beautiful and helpful.

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Amy Collard's avatar

I can’t believe your work colleagues were so calloused to reply like that!! I don’t know you but love following you here and on Instagram and your love of books. I don’t know the answer exactly of how to get through, but just wish I could give you a hug and let you know to keep holding on and keep moving forward. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way!!

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Jenn Warren's avatar

Hunter, I resonate with pieces of your own history and current state of depression. I’m sorry, and I see you. I am not one to offer solutions, however I feel far too few practitioners educate their patients about TMS therapy. It helped pull me out of 2, months long depressive episodes in the last 10 years. Peace to you. I know it’s not that simple, but it’s what I wish for you.

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Natalie McGlocklin's avatar

I’ve been talking with my therapist about writing as healing and somehow I never realized that many people probably write fiction in order to process real feelings. I’m glad you’ve found a place to share your story with others who might need to hear it, and I hope it helps heal you in some way 🖤

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Rachelle's avatar

I am so sorry for your hurt and sadness; it is a hard time for many and empathy seems to be the first thing to go. Keep putting one foot in front of the other and find one thing to find joy in each day. You are loved and your gifts are important to the world.

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Irene Marks's avatar

Thank you for sharing your real self with us. Depression is so hard. Sending love and light.

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Chris Grace's avatar

Hunter, this candor combined with your writing voice is so powerful. You have a gift for making yourself known through your words. I hope that continued writing, as well as reading books that fit now, will help you feel more peace and light in the coming days. Please keep writing, keep sharing, and feel the uplift from those who love you.

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Kimberly McDaniel's avatar

I have followed you for quite a while and when you post, I read every word, sometimes twice, and I feel such a connection to your words, much like you are saying you experience when reading other authors. I’m so glad you know that it will get better. I’m so sorry it sucks right now. Please keep sharing your amazing self with the world. You are valued and loved.

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